And yes, it’s been a MONTH since my last blog post. Guess that’s what happens when you get a new job, a new house, and real life hits you right in the face.
Isn’t it crazy how as you get older, birthdays seem a little less… exciting. Don’t get me wrong, I love my birthday, but I remember the days when my birthday was spent waking up early because I was too excited to see all my friends at my birthday party and blow out my candles. Now I’m just excited that I can rent a car with no additional fee.
So yeah, you could say things change and birthdays become more about reflecting on your past years + growing up rather than eating cake + opening presents (although I still enjoy doing both of those.)
There’s a lot of things I’ve learned in the past quarter of a century and a lot of things I wish I knew as I was growing up. Things that you don’t really understand until you are old enough. I used to HATE that saying, “You’ll understand when you’re older.” Too bad it turned out to be true and now I understand, ya know, because well… I’m older.
Like for example,
1. My mom was always right.
Yep, always. About boys, about life, about making my bed, about how I’ll appreciate her when she’s older and wish I never yelled at her when she told me to do my homework, about how I’ll wish I spent more time with her. All of it, she was right.
And the list goes on…
2. It doesn’t matter what people think of you.
It really doesn’t. You don’t need to impress anyone, except yourself.
3. On that note, have fun.
No, not the stupid, get in the car with a drunk driver reckless kind of fun. But the stay out late, hanging out with your friends, staring up at the stars kind of fun. Those are the moments I miss now that I’m older, when I remember not having to worry about a thing.
4. To always be in the moment.
This is another one of those “you won’t get it until later” kind of lessons. I’m still learning today how to do this more and it is something I really plan to focus more on in the future. Whether I’m watching the sunset with my husband or traveling to a new city, stopping to take mental pictures and just taking in every moment is far more valuable than capturing the best Instagram photo to post later.
5. To plan for the future, but not obsess about it.
I am what you would call a MAJOR planner. But, I’ve learned not to worry too much about the future because honestly, it is out of my hands. I set goals, and try my best to stick with them. Life throws you curveballs, and you have to adapt. So I learned that the best way to live life is without expectations and to just go with the flow.
6. Friendships are way more about quality than quantity.
I fell like I used to have so many friends, but very few valuable people in my life. Sure, I have friend that I see out and about (more like acquaintances, you know the awkward “call me and we will grab lunch one day!” kind of conversations) and then I have friends that I can call at anytime and talk to. Those are the friends that mean the most. It’s hard to learn that as friends literally disappear from your life, but it’s one of the most valuable lessons I have learned.
7. Everything happens for a reason.
THIS. This took me forever to learn, but it is the most true cliche I have ever heard.
8. That some people just SUCK.
I consider myself a very friendly and outgoing person. I tend to always look at the good in people and give them the upper hand. That being said, some people just suck. Not everyone, not all the time, but sometimes there have been situations where I have had to just walk away and realize that there are more important people to let in my life. Some people don’t have good intentions and some people are downright mean. I feel as if it’s been my job the past 25 years to filter through these people but it’s taught me a lot about who I do and don’t want in my life.
9. That it’s OK to grow up before everyone else.
I used to hate the fact that I matured a lot quicker than it seemed like everyone else did. I was the “mom” of the group, always. But now, I’m glad that I got that jump start. I learned that some things were downright stupid before others did. I got my values together before others did. And I started living the life that benefited me and let me grow as person before others did. And I’m grateful that I was brought up that way.
10. That I have lived an amazing life so far that I am proud of.
Life’s short. And I have had my fair share of regrets and things I wished I might have done differently. But all in all, I have done some amazing things that I am proud of. I’m proud of the 24 year old woman I was and I’m proud of the 25 year old woman that I am now. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for me.