Ahhh social media. You either love it or you hate it.
I was someone who got to a point that I not only hated it, but I hated who I became while using it. Whether I was judging myself or judging others, I didn’t like the negative things I was subjecting myself to on social media and I never (ever) would have thought I would turn to it as my hobby years down the road.
But, things change right? Social media has come a LONG way since then. I truly believe that most of that is credited to the users of it and how millennials have truly began changing the way we use our platforms. There’s a lot more good in the world (and on social media) nowadays that we are choosing to portray and it is making the internet a happier place to be.
Let’s chat about some reasons why I used to hate the online community and how I have come to love it since.
Let’s start with one of the most obvious, shall we?
Social media can be dangerous. It’s way too easy to begin comparing yourself with the people you scroll by, especially when almost everyone looks ‘perfect.’ But you cannot get caught up in that. I did, and it led me to change the people I was following and the things I was watching. (I will talk about that more in a second!)
Cyberbullying is very, very real. Sadly it still goes on today. But thankfully, people are becoming much more supportive of others when it comes to social media, and one nice comment can truly change someone’s day for the better.
Which leads me to why my views have changed.
Uhh, can you say GIRL POWER?
I remember the days when the internet was filled with slut-shaming and girl-hate. Looking back now I can’t believe I ever spent time in such a negative place.
Now, girls are becoming empowering women. Hyping each other up is the norm. And it is pretty amazing.
Not to mention, the realness. People are no longer afraid to show who they really are on social media. My favorite posts are the ones that aren’t perfect. Because they are real.
If you honestly think that so-and-so wakes up every morning with perfect hair and goes and sits on her skyline balcony, drinking her Starbucks coffee and plans her day all while someone snaps a photo.
Everyone wakes up late. Everyone has those days where we forget to brush our hair.And everyone has days (some more than others) where things are so far from perfect. The best part is that people aren’t afraid to show that now.
A big trend on Instagram now is a lot of influencers posting real content (and I mean unedited, messy house, normal everyday life things) and reminding their followers what that actually looks like. It’s so refreshing to see. People not afraid to show how real life is.
With that being said, the unfollow button is there for a reason.
There are some people on social media that will truly portray themselves as perfect. No flaws. No stress. And no probs. Sadly, some people still refuse to show that real side. For me, looking at these types of people were doing me more harm than I knew. I have never been an insecure person but unknowingly, I was becoming one. I never compared myself to anyone, but I had started to. It took me a while before I realized this and I was shocked. Shocked that I let something like this influence me the way it did. Shocked that I succumbed to this cliché of letting Instagram influence me.
So I started using that handy and underrated unfollow button. And it worked. I limited the posts that I saw. I only followed real people who truly showed their life and flaws online. And I cut out any negative energy on my feed. I completely changed what I saw using one button an it worked wonders.
Don’t let social media fool you. Focus on the positives, not the negatives. You control who you follow and you control the content you see. Curate it to your needs and what you want to spend your time seeing and reading. Feed the positive and starve the negative.
If you hate social media, you have the power to change it. Change what you see and read, and you will get a much better outlook on social media. It can open so many doors and help you connect with so many incredible people. When used right, it’s actually pretty amazing.