A lot has changed. And, a lot of lessons have been learned. Everything that you have done and been through, the people that you’re friends with and stay friends with, and the decisions you made have made you into me. Or should I say you. Twenty-four year old you.
There’s a couple things you should know.
One of them most importantly being that the clothes you are wearing will wildly embarrass you when you’re older. Seriously, you’re going to look back and think, what the hell was I wearing? I’m pretty sure you and all the other girls in school are wearing the same thing. The same ‘Etnie’ sneakers, the same shell necklaces, and the same “poof” in your hair. And that’s fine. But don’t be afraid to stand out. It really doesn’t matter what you look like. You don’t always have to fit in. Actually, the kids who did stand out and didn’t follow every trend, are doing amazing things today. But so are you.
Speaking of amazing things. That boy that you think you’re going to marry, you’re not. He’s actually a jerk and you wouldn’t want to marry him anyways. You’ll see him on Facebook when you’re older and think, “Why did I used to like you?”. But you’ll smile, because their living a happy life and so are you.
Actually, almost every guy you like is going to be a jerk. Just so ya know. But don’t let that stop you. You’re going to have to learn somehow. You’ve got to go through the bad to get to the good. You’re going to get heartbroken a million times and it’s going to hurt really bad. And you’re going to get butterflies a million times too.
But nothing will compare to the butterflies you’ll get when you see your husband get down on one knee and propose to you. Or when you walk down the aisle to him on your wedding day. Or when you wake up next to him every morning and wonder why you ever put time and energy into any other man. You’ll have your prince charming. And spoiler alert: He’s pretty hot.
Another thing, enjoy being young while you can. Stop wanting to grow up so fast. Summer vacations won’t always be like they used to. Kids growing up will have cellphones. They won’t be biking to someone’s house to see if they are home. Cherish that. Enjoy sneaking out, enjoy not having a job, enjoy laughing with your friends and not having a care in the world. When you get older, you don’t get that back. Those will be some of the best times of your life.
But life won’t always be great leading up to now. You’re going to lose a few people, and the pain of loss is worse than any heartbreak. Hug your friends tight, keep them safe. You’re going to be called the “mom of the group” growing up but that’s an honor. You’re going to do everything you can to keep them from being stupid, drinking and driving, and doing bad things. You will do some of those bad things too. But you’ll learn quickly that it’s not for you. And that is one of the best things that will happen to you.
Speaking of that, spend more time with your family. I know you want to hangout with your friends and you probably think it’s lame to go do fun things with your parents, or your grandparents. But you should spend time with them. One day you won’t be able to. Your parents have dedicated their whole life to raising you. Giving you money for the movies, making sure you’re getting the best education, and they just want you to be happy. And they want to keep you safe too. It’s not nagging, it’s caring.
You do have a big heart. Huge actually. You want everyone to be happy. And that’s a huge part of who you are today. But remember to leave room for yourself too. Loving yourself is a big part of growing up and becoming the strong woman you are today. Choosing to love yourself whole heartedly is one of the best decisions you will ever make. It will lead you to the people and things you give your energy to in the future.
Stay yourself. Right now it might not feel like that will get you anywhere, but it will. Right now, you’re thinking about your future with no idea the great and amazing things you will do. You’re looking at your future with a lot of anticipation. You’re looking at your future with a lot of fear.
But do me a favor, and just trust me. Everything will turn out fine. You will turn out fine. You grew up to be so strong. So loving, and not just towards your friends and family, but yourself.
I look back and I realize the things I could have and should have done. Things I could have done better. Things you could have done better.
But every single move that you made helped mold you into the woman that you are today. And you are going to turn out amazing and do amazing things. I promise.